How To Cut Your Ties To Your Past

 

Sometimes you have to let go of your past to allow your future to come in.

When we hold on to things from our past, they take up so much room in our lives that nothing new can come in and take root.

 

Certain new situations do show up but they fail to stay because we haven’t let go of our old life.

You can’t spend your life straddling your past and your present.

It’s like standing on the water with two small boats with one leg in each boat.

 

You can stand on both boats for a brief moment without falling over but sooner or later you’ll have to pick one before you fall off and get knocked into the water.

 

You can’t have both.

Sometimes we hold on to grudges, old relationships and friendships that no longer suit us or fit into our lives.

Other times we hold back forgiveness from others who have hurt us.

Sometimes the forgiveness we’ve held back has been from ourselves. We haven’t forgiven ourselves for the mistakes of the past.

Anytime you’re unwilling to let go of something that‘s harmful to you from the past, it’s going to keep you from your destiny and any good that wants to enter your life.

It’s not easy to move forward with a new life and also let go of the past.

Sometimes we start a new life but fail to really let go of the first one.

We think we did, but we didn’t.

All along, we’ve been holding on to things that have already let go of us.

You start a new life and go after your dreams but there’s an imaginary string pulling you back like a tether to your old life.

 

You try to keep moving forward but that old life keeps you in place and haunts you at every turn.
What do you do?

Begin by acknowledging what or who it is you need to let go of. That’s the first step.

Next you have to say goodbye to the negative things or people in the past who have harmed you in some way.

Forgive where you haven’t forgiven, and let go where you haven’t cut that string.

 

Letting go of our past doesn’t happen all at once. You may discover that the “string” is really a thick rope that takes time to cut through.

 

There are layers present that you have to slice through bit by bit until you’re truly free from your past.

It can take time and it’s a process. But you still have to do it.

 

As for me, I’m still a work in progress.

We all are.

But I see that light at the end of the tunnel shining through and I’m going to follow it

 

Caroline Rezvani

 

Author Wake Up and Start Dreaming

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They are tearing down my old dental school.

  • They already built the new school right next door. The old school was just sitting there unused and dormant for a long time.

 

  • I left Baltimore years ago after graduation and I never looked back. I didn’t even attend my 5 or 10 year reunions.

 

  • I have a mixture of bad and good memories from my dental school days in Baltimore. It was a rough time in my life.

 

  • I sit here now a dentist with 10 years of experience behind me, but now finally pursuing my dreams.

 

  • When I saw friends posting pictures of the school on Facebook like the photo above, at first I couldn’t decide how I felt.

 

  • Then I began to think of the demolition of the old school as also knocking down the past.

 

  • I admit I’ve been holding on to a tremendous amount of bad memories from those days and I finally need to let go of them.

 

  • It’s both symbolic and serendipitous that this happens right at a point in my life when I’m poised for a big change and ready to shed the past completely.

 

  • I’m going to leave that part of my life among the rubble and let the wrecking ball do the work.

 

The past is truly gone. It’s time to start again.

Is there something from your past you need to knock down into rubble? If yes, then you need to do it to make room for something new to come along. Need a sledgehammer? Want to borrow mine? (okay not a real one, a symbolic one ;) )

Caroline

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