- Today 2 different friends approached me with the same problem. They were both overwhelmed with being over-scheduled, and were feeling as if life itself was sensory overload.
- It happens to all of us.
- We get caught up with our to-do lists and all of our responsibilities, work, family obligations, traffic jams, phone calls, emails, texting, laundry, grocery shopping, bills, etc etc.
- We keep moving at a fast pace like this every day without slowing down until one day we get to the point where we wonder if we should just quit our jobs and live in a peaceful village somewhere living off the land like nomads or have fantasies of being alone on a deserted island without anything or anyone to bother us.
- Well, before we all pack our bags for that deserted island here are some steps we can take to feel better and make our world less hectic.
- Besides if all of us went to that deserted island then it wouldn’t be deserted anymore, would it? Before long it will be a bustling town with traffic jams and high rise apartments overlooking the water and we would be right back where we started.
1) Quiet Time
- Yes, it does exist. It is not a myth. Even the busiest person can find it. Don’t believe me? I challenge you to try it.
- Look for it on your car ride to work. Try turning off the radio for a change and listen to your own thoughts.
- If you take the train to work, use that time to meditate or just try to quiet the million thoughts in your brain. I know it’s hard to quiet the mind. It takes practice.
- Find creative ways to get quiet.
- Even 10 minute increments of quiet time at different points of your day will do wonders for your sanity.
- Shut down the noise in your life as much as you can.
2) Put The Phone Down And Back Away Slowly
- Honestly, do you really need to be on your phone checking email, Facebook, and texting as much as you do? You are saying,”yes” aren’t you? Right now you are thinking that Caroline doesn’t understand how crazy your life is.
- I get it, believe me, I really do, but unless you are President of the United States or any country for that matter, you do not need a constant nonstop relationship with your phone.
- Take a no Internet, phone call, texting break for a little bit each day. You will be surprised at how much better you will feel.
- Oh, and lets not forget the constant texting while walking, driving, and standing in elevators. Other than the fact that its dangerous, you can be alone with your thoughts or you may miss out on meeting someone new because your nose was in your phone, or heaven forbid, actually see the world around you.
- You will never, never, never, ever in a million years get everything on your to -do list done, so give yourself a break for crying out loud.
- Prioritize the things that absolutely have to get done that day and leave everything else for another day. You are not a failure because you didn’t get #7-A on your to-do list done. You would be a weirdo if you did.
- Be nicer to yourself. Easier said than done for most of us, but try it anyways. I feel like most of us are nicer to everyone else and leave ourselves for last. Stop it.
- You are not Superman/Woman. You are a regular person, who cannot fly or lift a building or other stuff. If you can do these things then this post is not meant for your eyes.
4) The Elusive Day Off
- I think most of us work so hard that even on our off days we don’t know how to turn it off.
- I used to spend my off days trying to get allllll my errands done and ended up feeling more tired than on the days that I worked.
- Soon I learned that there is no such thing as getting all your errands done. It’s a myth. As soon as you get the things you want to get done, more errands grow right in their place. Like weeds or like a movie that can’t stop having sequels. It’s a vicious cycle.
- If you have a day off then for the love of all that is holy, TAKE THE DAY OFF! You are lucky to have that day so spend it wisely.
- I know, I know, I know you have things to do. I get it. I myself come from a land of one million things to do each day. Do what is important then go do something fun. Even if for you fun is napping…to each his own…
5) Remember Fun?
- When we were kids we knew how to have fun. It was second nature to us. We would make our own fun. If you put us in a Turkish prison or an insurance seminar we would figure out a way to have fun.
- Then we became adults and all the fun flew out the window and we forgot ourselves.
- Take the time to do whatever makes you happy and do it every day.
- I don’t care if your version of a good time is playing a violin, painting, dancing, writing, or underwater basket weaving. No judgment here.
- Whatever it is, just do it. It will make your world less chaotic and you will feel calmer because you are taking the time to do something because you WANT to do it and not because you HAVE to do it. That is key…
Try these 5 things.
And remember, if your life is not making you happy then do something about it.
It takes more energy to be unhappy and do nothing than it takes to fix what’s broken and be happy.
Words to live by…..
Be well, be happy and go do something fun. Put it on your to-do list if it makes you feel better