Today I spilled half a bowl of soup in my lap (I caught the bowl in time for only half of it to tip over) and it didn’t upset me at all…at all. I was more surprised by my reaction than the actual soup spill. After it happened all I could think was, “well at least I have half a bowl left for lunch”. What?! The old me would have been completely upset. The new me has perspective. Which leads me to today’s post.
You cannot control every single thing that happens to you in life, but you can control your reaction to it. You can make something into a catastrophe or you can make it into something small. It’s your decision. You can cry over spilled soup or you can be thankful for the half bowl that you have and move on.
Our reaction is everything. Today my accountant called me to tell me what I owe this year and let’s just say that keeping my perspective came in handy again. Yes, my reaction was not a good one for about 2 seconds, but then I tried to remember all of the good things I have in my life. I remembered that I am employed, I have a roof over my head and many other things I should be thankful for. Today my perspective on things was being tested.
When something unfortunate happens, try to keep your perspective and remember that it is never as bad as it seems. For some reason our imagination can run wild and make any scenario and all of the possible outcomes seem worse than it is. Remember that your mind likes to play tricks on you like that.
Keep a cool head when life throws spilled soup in your direction. Losing your temper, and getting upset will only make you feel worse and will not resolve the situation. For every problem, there is a solution. If you lose your cool, you will not be any closer to finding that solution. When you stay calm, it will diffuse the situation quickly then you can start finding a resolution to whatever the issue is.
Whenever you find yourself losing your head over something that just happened, do the following:
1) Stop whatever you are doing. Put everything down for a moment.
2) Close your eyes and try to clear out all of your thoughts. The bad thoughts will go too.
3) Think of at least 5 positive things in your life
4) Remind yourself the situation is not as bad as your mind is telling you it is
These four steps can dramatically change your perspective if you are open to it. Keep an open mind.
(By the way, that 2 second bad reaction I had to my taxes made me so tense it gave me a miserable headache. Then I chilled out and remembered that I love yoga. One yoga pose got rid of my headache immediately. Yoga: Better than Tylenol!!!)
So keep a cool head and remember nothing is ever as bad as it seems!!!