How much time do you spend worrying? One hour a day? 24 hours a day? Isn’t it exhausting?
Problem: Most of us worry too much over things we cannot control. Even if we could control them, worrying would not help the situation. Some of us worry so much that it interrupts our sleep, appetite and makes us cranky. People often flee from the worrier to avoid hearing about their worries.
- In my day job (dentist), I see people walk into the office visibly carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders. In most cases I notice they have been grinding their teeth into oblivion while they sleep. ( you can tell by looking at their teeth. I promise I don’t secretly go to their houses and check while they are sleeping.)
- When I tell them they are grinding their teeth and need a night guard, they wonder why.
- We put too much pressure on ourselves.
- I did it for years and every day I still fight the urge to worry. I came to the point where enough was enough.
Fact: We are not meant or built to handle excessive worry
- Eventually you will get to the point where you just can’t take one more hassle piled onto the top of your mountain of worries and you will decide to say, “oh well”.
- Saying, “Oh well” does not mean you don’t care. It means you are done worrying and tormenting yourself to the point that you turn into a ball of stress that cannot be unraveled.
- The same thing goes for the dreams you are chasing. Don’t stress over your dreams. They are your dreams for a reason. They are meant to happen. Let them happen. Worrying will only hold you back from realizing your dreams and your life purpose.
- Many of us are natural worriers. We are good at it. When we don’t have something to stress over in our life, we panic and call our friends and ask them what’s going on in their lives so we can fuss and fret over their problems. We all have better things to do.
- In the end worrying will prevent you from moving forward. You end up in a worry spiral where you are spinning around in a circle until you are dizzy and fall down.
- Resist the urge to worry and fret. It is a complete waste of time.
Every time you feel you are going to spend an unhealthy amount of time ruminating, and pontificating over something you have no control over or something where worrying will not help the situation (which is everything), slap yourself in the face to snap out of it. (Not too hard though…and not in front of other people)
- Walking always clears the stress from my mind and helps me see things from a better perspective.
- I don’t want to make a night guard for you….okay if you need it, of course I will. I just don’t want you to be another teeth grinding statistic….
- Look at this cat. This is a random cat that sat at my feet. It was a Wednesday. He was not thinking about his problems. Be the cat…except don’t scratch people and hiss at them when they walk by, or walk under their legs when they are at an outdoor café.